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I appreciate your wanting to be open-minded and objective. Now stop. This is dating. You are not hearing death-row cases. You’re not writing public policy. You have a right to impose unfair standards and make irrational judgments. Your romantic happiness depends on it.

Still unsure? Here’s a good litmus test. I got it from my sister a long time ago, and I still use it. Imagine yourself at a party. It’s filled with all your favorite people. People you look up to. Good human beings. Now imagine you have to give a speech on why this guy is the coolest person in the room. Look down at the index card. Are you at a loss for bullet points? Do you have bullet points but don’t feel like you could expound on them? If so, worry. Admiration is tied to respect. Respect is tied to empathy. Empathy is tied to being and staying in love. If a little voice in the back of your head says, “He’s a cheeseball!” listen to it, no matter how mean and petty. It’s an indicator of a more significant feeling.  - Miss Information