Savage Love by Dan Savage

All unwelcome advances are made by assholes, COTJ, while all welcome advances are made by non-assholes. But since it is the reaction of the advanced-upon that determines asshole status (i.e., if she wants to fuck you then you’re not an asshole) and since you can’t know if an advance is unwelcome until after you’ve made it, you have to risk sounding like an asshole or you’ll never get laid. No one ever gets laid without sounding like an asshole every once in a while.

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